Life Skills, Questioning the Status Quo and Bacon

I’ve been doing a lot of reading and cooking lately.

The books, articles, and blog posts I’ve been reading have focused on raising independent adults and feeding a healthy family.

Here’s what I’ve been learning…

Apparently, it’s never too early to teach kids life skills

I’m reading How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. by Julie Lythcott-Haims*

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The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People: The Private Victories 30-Day Challenge

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is an iconic book…one that’s often quoted in business and personal development circles alike. But I’d be honest, it’s been a hard book to read. I’ve had it since my college years, over 10 years now, and I haven’t finished it yet. While I haven’t read it from cover to cover yet, I’ve still applied the principles to my life.

When I picked it up again in 2018, I decided to take it in chunks:

  1. starting with the private victories by working towards personal mastery
  2. moving on to public victories where I take that mastery into my relationships
  3. and then renewal

The rest of this post is the 30-day challenge that I created to take action on what I learned from the chapters of the first three habits that form the habits of private victory:

  1. Be Proactive…to take control of your life by being responsible—using the space between the stimulus that acts upon you and your response to it to choose the appropriate response to influence the outcome you want.
  2. Begin with the End in Mind…there are two creations—the vision (the first creation, a mental one) and the achievement of the vision (the second creation). You don’t want to cut through a forest and get to the end of your odyssey only to find out you were cutting in the wrong forest.
  3. Put First things First…by prioritizing your time to match your first creation so you can get to your second creation. Bottom line do the things that matter instead of being busy for the sake of it.

You’re going to need to have a copy of the book to do the work laid out in this 30-day challenge yourself, so grab your copy of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and dive in.

Set the foundation

The process of foundation-setting in these first few days is to acknowledge where you’ve been and where you want to go.

Day 1: Learn from the past and work to put it behind you

”For those filled with regret, perhaps the most needful exercise of proactivity is to realize that past mistakes are also out there in the Circle of Concern. We can’t recall them, we can’t undo them, we can’t control the consequences that came as a result. The proactive approach to a mistake is to acknowledge it instantly, correct and learn from it.” ~ 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Before you step into the world of being a more proactive version of yourself, you need to acknowledge the mistakes that you keep marinating over and pick out the lesson to enable you to move forward.

Today:

  • Make a list of the mistakes that you’ve made. The ones that you find it hard to forgive yourself for.
  • List what you learned from those mistakes.
  • Where applicable…acknowledge what you know now via the benefit of hindsight and forgive yourself for not acting on information you didn’t have.
Day 2: Identify your circles

Make a list of all the things that worry you right now…the things that keep you up at night. Once you have your list, break them out into your:

  • Circle of concern: things that you’re worried about but have no control over.
  • Circle of influence: things that you’re worried about and you can directly have an impact on to effect your desired outcome.

For more on how to tell the difference between the circles to make it easy to categorize, read Habit 1: Be Proactive in the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Day 3: Set Your Circle of Concern Aside

It’s one thing to acknowledge that something is in your circle of concern, and it’s another to actually live like it is.

For the things in your circle of concern identify:

  • why it’s a worry of yours
  • why it’s out of your control

The goal of this exercise is to minimize the chance that you’ll fall into the trap of trying to control it. The reason you don’t have control over it is clear right there on paper…doing this exercise will help you avoid the trap.

Day 4: Seek Common Ground

As you go through your day, seek common ground with those you interact with.

When you start doing a lot of introspective work, it’s easy to find what makes you different…ethnicity, gender, political affiliation, etc., but there’s also a baseline humanness that connects us all despite our differences.

Think of today as a break from looking inwards…to:

  • connect with people you normally won’t.
  • take the time to notice what you have in common with the people you meet with, connect with, or even think about.
Day 5: Own Your Circle of Influence

Go back to Day 2. To the list you made of the things that fall in your Circle of Influence…the things that worry you that you can do something about:

  1. What are they?
  2. What about them make you worry?
  3. For these items in the list, what outcomes would you hope to outcome in the best case scenario?
  4. What do you need to do every day, every week, every month, every year, to get to that outcome?
Day 6: Begin with the End in Mind

In the beginning of Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind there is an exercise…I’m not going to ruin it for you because part of the impact of the exercise is the suspense as the author introduces it.

Doing this exercise today will set the stage for:

  • connecting with the people who matter to you.
  • identifying the roles that you’d like to be part of your who you are (regardless of whether they are today or not).
  • writing your mission statement…the guiding statement for your life.
Day 7: Connect with Your People

Choose at least one person in your life that you care about. You can make it someone that you envision from yesterday’s exercise if you want…call, text, or better yet make an attempt to see them in person.

You’ve done a lot of heavy introspection so far and there’s more to come, so this another break in the day.

Day 8: Get Over the Sunk Cost Bias

You’re about to create something new to help you own your personal victory. You’re about to look at your life and choose to change the things that need to change and continue on with the things that don’t.

As you make this transition, you’re going to be tempted to hold on to things that might not serve you anymore because you’ve invested so much in them.

The desire to hang on to things because we’ve invested so much in it already is called the sunk bias…the idea that we value things more than they are worth when we already have them.

According to Greg McKeown…author of Essentialism…ask the killer question “If I didn’t already own this, how much will I spend to buy it?”

Chances are the reflection you did on Day 6 will result in you looking to reprioritize how you spend your resources (time, money, energy, etc.), so anticipate that you might have to confront the sunk cost bias sooner rather than later.

So ask yourself for the things that take up most of your resources…If you didn’t already:

  • invest money in something, would you invest in it again?
  • commit your time to something, would you say yes to doing it again?
  • spend your energy on something, would you choose it again today?

You don’t have to have the answers to these questions for everything, but as you move to execute the first creation for your major roles, you’ll find yourself confronting the sunk cost bias.

Start with the First Creation

Days 9 to 18 are all about the first creation for the things that matter. Each day below is based on the things that matter to me, so feel free to change it up for yourself.

You might not need a full nine days to go through this step, or you might need more. But the goal of this part of the challenge is for you to take a day for each of the aspects of your life that matter to you and execute the first creation…think of how you’d like that part of your life to be.

You can use this quote from the book as your guiding light (or read Habit 2 to get the full picture):

“To the extent to which we understand the principle of two creations and accept the responsibility for both, we act within and enlarge the borders of our Circle of Influence. To the extent to which we do not operate in harmony with this principle and do not take charge of the first creation, we diminish it.”

~ Stephen Covey

None of these first creations need to be perfect. What you’re looking for is a starting point to be intentional about creating for each of your important roles.

Day 9: Execute the First Creation—Marriage

Here are some guiding questions that you can use in your first creation:

  • Who do you want to be as a spouse?
  • What would you like to bring to the table in your partnership?
  • What do you want to receive from your partnership?
  • If you were to die today, how would you want your spouse to remember you (Day 6)?
  • What can you start doing today to be more of this spouse that you want to be based on the answers to the previous question?
Day 10: Execute the First Creation—Parenting

Here are some guiding questions that you can use in your first creation as a parent:

  • Who do you want to be as a parent?
  • How do you plan to nurture your children—physically, spiritually, emotionally?
  • How do you want your children to see you today (a parent they can tell anything, the fix it parent, the disciplinarian, etc.)?
  • If you were to die today, how would you want your kids to remember you (Day 6)?
  • What legacy do you want to leave behind for your kids?
  • What can you start doing today to be more of this parent that you want to be based on the answers to the previous question?
Day 11: Execute the First Creation—Work

Here are some guiding questions that you can use in your first creation in the work you do:

  • What contribution do you want to bring to your work?
  • How does your work serve you beyond the compensation that you get from it?
  • If you were to quit today, how would you want the people at your job to remember you?
  • What can you start doing today to be more of this person that you want to be at work based on the answers to the previous question?

Day 12: Execute the First Creation—Financial Independence

This aspect is one that is important to me because in my mind, money gives you options.

Here are some guiding questions for this aspect of your life should you choose to explore it:

  • When you consider money as a tool, what do you want that tool to help you achieve?
  • How much of that tool do you need to achieve that goal?
  • If your primary source of income were to disappear today, what would your financial life look like? Are you happy with the answer to this question…and if not, what can you do to change that answer? This will really help you shape your first creation.
Day 13: Execute the First Creation—Friendship

Here are some guiding questions for this aspect of your life:

  • Who are the people you’re going to allow in your orbit and call friend?
  • What do you hope to add to these people’s lives?
  • What do you hope they’ll add to your life?
  • How will you support them and how do you expect them to support you?
Day 14: Execute the First Creation—Our Home

Describe how you want it to look and feel, what you want it to be for every family member…keep in mind the kind of memories you hope to create in your home and envision how you’ll design your home to do so.

Day 15: Execute the First Creation—Where We Choose to Live

I’m an immigrant and this question is important to me. If you find yourself in a similar situation or are considering moving from where you currently live, contemplating what that would look like.

Here are some potential questions:

  • Where are you thinking of planting yourself?
  • What would you hope where you eventually choose to be like?
  • How do you expect to contribute to your new future home?
  • What freedoms do you hope to be able to explore?
  • Who would moving there enable you to be?
Day 16: Execute the First Creation—Our Education

I work in a job that requires me to learn from every single project and I have two kids who I would love to be avid learners and that’s why this aspect exists. If you want to consider this ask:

  • What type of learner do you like to be?
  • What type of learning style would you like to model for your children to see?
Day 17: Execute the First Creation—Our Extended Family

We tend to take for granted that we will always make time for family, but that gets really hard when you start adulting.

You start with parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, and cousins…and as you get older, you add nieces, nephews, in-laws, etc.

It’s easy to take extended family for granted, having a first creation for it can help you be intentional to ensure that does not happen.

Day 18: Execute the First Creation—Our Life Post FI

On Day 12, you already considered what you want your financial picture to look like. Today is about painting the picture of what life will look like after you achieve financial independence.

Whether you choose a traditional retirement age or an early retirement, it’s good to have a picture of what you want for yourself in this next chapter of your life…even if it’s only to remind you of why you work:

  • What would you hope retirement would like like?
  • What do you hope to do with your new-found free time?
  • What kind of connections/relationships would you like to build to get there?
  • What kind of life would you want to craft as we step into this new adventure?

Step into Your Private Victory

Day 19: What Were Your Impressions (character, contributions, achievements) from the Funeral Exercise? (Day 6)

“Take the time to record the impressions you had in the funeral visualization at the beginning of Habit 2. Organize your thoughts accordingly:”

Based on what your immediate and extended family, the person from your work, and the representative from your community:

  • What were the impressions you got around your character from the eulogy?
  • What were the impressions you got around your contributions?
  • What were the impressions you got around your achievements?
Day 20: Based on the Funeral Exercise, What are Your Most Important Roles and How Do You Define Them?

Write down your roles as you see them today:

  • Are you satisfied with the image of your life that they paint?
  • If you are, why so? So you can keep doing more of what you need to do to be more of that woman.
  • If not, why not? So you know what to change.
Day 21: What are the Centers that Each Role Currently Falls In As You Live Today?

Go through the chart in Appendix A of the book…where it shows different centers and note all the centers you identify with.

  • Do they form a pattern for the behavior in your life?
  • And is it a pattern you’re comfortable with? Why or why not?
  • Since you’re being a proactive first creator, what about this pattern would you like to break? What would you like to keep/reshape around a principle-based center?
Day 22: What are the Principles that You’d Like to Build Your New Center Around?

Make a list of the principles that you want your roles to be built around e.g. mutual respect, integrity, freedom, etc.

Day 23: Identify Notes, Quotes, and Ideas that You Can Use to Write Your Personal Mission Statement

Take a moment to look through old notes, quotes, and ideas you may want to use as material in writing your personal mission statement.

Also use this as a place to add material to for future revisions of your mission statement.

Day 24: Start Working on Your Personal Mission Statement

Take some time away from everything and reflect on the work you’ve done so far and use that and the examples and guidance you get from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to create your living personal mission statement.

Day 25: Reflect on How You Are Living in Your Circles Right Now

It’s been over 3 weeks and you’ve had practice working within your Circle of Influence as opposed to worrying about your circle of concern.

Now is a good time to go back and review your notes on Day 3.

  • How has your circle of concern changed?
  • Has it shrunk or expanded? Be very specific in your answer as it could reveal just how much can change when you don’t focus on things that are outside of your control.

It’s also a good time to go back and review your notes from Day 5.

  • How has your circle of influence changed?
  • Has it shrunk or expanded? Be very specific in your answer as it could reveal just how much can change when you do focus on the things that are within your control.
Day 26: Start a Time Log for the Next 3 Days in 15 Minute Intervals

Spending your time on your priorities…putting first things first…will require you to actively choose what you spend your time on. Also making time for Quadrant II activities will require letting go of other things i.e. you only have so much time.

So over the next three days you’ll be tracking your time in 15 minute intervals. It sounds tedious, but it’s something that could reveal so much about what you do prioritize right now so you can be conscious of the changes you make.

Day 27: Continue Your Time Log…15-Minute Intervals from Waking to Bed-Time

Today’s day 2 of your time log. Take note of what you do today and tomorrow in 15 minute intervals. You’re almost halfway there!

Day 28: Complete Your Time Log

Today’s day 3 of your time log. Take note of what you do today and tomorrow in 15 minute intervals. Sprint to the finish!

Day 29: Review Your Time Log…How Closely Does it Match How You want to Spend Your Time?

At the end of the day identify:

  • What are your important activities?
  • What are my Quadrant II (important, but not urgent) activities that you need to prioritize?
  • What can you delegate?
  • Which activities on your list must you do to help you achieve your personal mission and help you be more of the woman that you heard spoken about so lovingly and with much respect on Day 6?
Day 30: Bring it All Together in Your Personal Mission Statement

The key activity for today is to reflect on the last 30 days. Ask the question…how is your life different and what will you carry into the next 30?

Some ideas include:

  • Review your circles (Day 3 and Day 25) and reflect on how much more you’re living in your circle of influence
    • How has your influence changed in the key areas of your life?
    • How has your sense of well-being changed? If you’re focusing on your circle of influence and not your circle of concern, I’m willing to bet that it has improved.
  • Complete your Mission Statement and keep review it periodically e.g. at the beginning of each week to set the tone.
  • Follow the directives in Habit 3: Put First Things First from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to create your Quadrant II Tracker.

Now what?

Take some time to let the work you’ve done after 30 days sink in:

  • Practice proactivity often.
  • Spend a month or two planning your time effectively to put first things first.
  • And make sure you keep touching base with your first creations…your mission statement so your trajectory keeps moving in the direction of the vision you’re creating for yourself.

Want to learn something new?

Learn anything on Google

I was sitting in my dorm room in front of my ancient, but reliable, desktop trying to get through a difficult homework assignment due the next day and I was stuck. So I called my person…the guy who had all the answers…my older brother the electrical engineering PhD who always seemed to know what to do.

He broke down the solution for me, but after doing so he invited me to Google it next time. “Jiro babe” he said, “it’s 2004, almost every question you have has been answered by someone on Google. Google is your friend…you can find almost anything using it.”

This was the day I learned that Google was a great path to learn anything

My 18 year-old world changed forever. I still called him when I didn’t know what to Google, but those calls were fewer and further between.

These days I Google everything:

There are some things that Google isn’t great place for…like medical advice (don’t Google your symptoms, you might find you have everything from the sniffles to cancer if you let the results tell it).

But overall, it’s a great start to learn whatever you’re after.

xoEJ

On curating what I learn

Since I’ve become a mother my interests have shifted…not so much what I’m interested in, but why.

Healthy eating is now less about how it’ll help me lose weight

Now it’s more about how it’ll help fuel my crazy days that last from 4:30AM to 10:30PM (sometimes later 🤦🏾‍♀️).

The importance of healthy eating has also taking on new layers.

  1. There’s keeping us all healthy so we can maximize our quality of life to enjoy each other for many years to come.
  1. And there’s supporting my kids to have a healthy relationship with food so they don’t spend too much time in their early twenties unlearning unhealthy attitudes towards food. I don’t want them to see “good foods” and “bad foods”; if rather show them that there’s food and there’s a healthy way to eat it.

Work has taken on new meaning

I have the tendency to be a workaholic. I’m that person who would sleep with her work laptop in her bed with it open to make sure that my analysis ran through the night so I could wake up to comb through the results.

And with my business, I’d be up till 1AM in the morning recording a voice over for a course…only to wake up at 5AM (three hours later) to workout and start the day so I could get my son to preschool on time before heading to work.

No one asked me to work this way…but I thought it was what I needed to do to get where I wanted to go.

Some of it worked for me especially in the early years of my career when hubby and I were still dating and we didn’t have any kids…but I didn’t realize that it was okay to downshift or just change gears.

It wasn’t till I got pregnant with Sofia that I got smacked in the face by reality. My husband was picking up the slack and nurturing an amazing relationship with our son while I was working all the time. Inwas doing what was needed to keep the home running, while spending every spare minute on my business.

This had to change. Thankfully my husband knew just how to help me create a better balance in my life. It’s still not balanced, but it’s prioritized by what’s important to me as a human and what’s important to us as a family.

The irony of it is, since I rebalance my life I am:

  • enjoying the relationships I’m nurturing with my husband and kids.
  • doing great things at my job. Things that I didn’t know were possible when I graduated.
  • thriving in my business more than ever before while supporting my clients to thrive.

All this change is inviting me to learn new things

All this has opened up an interest in a lot of new things…some that I’m absolutely a beginner at. Things like:

  • Education. With two preschool age kids, I’m soaking up everything I can learn about how to educate them to thrive in the world that we’ve brought them into.
  • Money. Money is a tool that gives us options that can result in us living the best lives we can. We’ve been doing a lot of work optimizing our expenses so we can save more to give ourselves and our kids more options.
  • Retirement. At some point in my adult life, I want complete control of what I do with my time. I believe in the dignity of work, but I’m also believe that a working life doesn’t have to be forever. I think that I can work for a certain amount of time and retire early enough to do what I want. So early retirement is something that is of huge interest to me right now.
  • Health. This is something that’ll always be of interest to me. Chasing health was what helped me hop off the weight loss hamster wheel created by short-term diets. Health is also what’s helped me ignore a lot of the things out there that’ll have me spending money on things that aren’t necessary to help me live my best life.
  • Habit optimization. As a mom with a marriage to nurture, a job, and a business, optimizing my habits to live the best life I can matters to me so much right now!

My knowledge in these areas varies. I’m knowledgeable in some and a complete noob in others, so I’m going to be focused on curating what I’m learning moving forward on this blog.

I’ve been doing a lot of this learning in the background, but haven’t shared it here because I haven’t figured out how it fits into the theme of what my site has been about for the last six years…weight loss.

But I’ve come to see that it doesn’t have to fit perfectly. I can learn and share as I go as far as I make sense of what I’m sharing in some way.

So here’s what’s next

Everyday, I’ll share what I learned that day in the areas I’m interested in right now.

And every two weeks, I’ll make sense of the content I’ve shared to that point in a newsletter.

I can’t wait to learn openly and I hope you join me on this journey.

xoEJ

You’re doing great

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing…know that you’re doing great.

Keep showing up, keep doing the work you’ve committed to do and working towards a life that makes your heart sing…and know that you’re doing great.

No matter what you have left to learn or in what direction you need to grow…you’re doing great.

And if you ever forget this…hop back here and let the giant smiles at the top of this post remind you that you’re doing great!

This is a message that I needed to hear today and I thought to share as I’m sure there’s a woman out there who needs to hear it too.

xoEJ

What I’m reading—May 2019

I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately. Some of the books that I’ve read so far this year include:

  • Atomic Habits
  • The Passion Paradox
  • The Simple Path to Wealth
  • When:
  • Show Your Work by Austin Kleon
  • The Alchemist:

And while I typically read multiple books at a time, one book has me sucked in deep.

I got Becoming Brilliant not long after having Riley and I started reading it, but the message of the book didn’t really hit me till I started reading it again.

Why read it now

It’s relevant now that Riley is about to be of school age and we’re trying to figure out the best place for him to go to elementary (or primary) school. You see the schools around where I live aren’t that great. There are only a few good public schools and the norm for upper middle class families is to send their kids to private school.

It’s an option for us, but it’s one we’d rather not have to explore. For one there’s the cost…private school can cost anywhere from $6,000 – $25,000 per year per child depending on the type of school you choose. And you don’t quite know how to vet the quality of the education your child is getting from a private institution because they don’t have the same reporting requirements that public schools are.

The other reason we’d like our children to go to public school is that there is way more diversity in the public school system than you’d encounter at most private schools around here. There are resources available at public schools that may not be available at private schools like social workers on site.

What I’m excited about with this book

There’s a lot we don’t know, so we’ve been turning to books and resources that are available through work benefits to help us navigate the school system around here.

I’m excited about this book because of the expectations they set at the beginning e.g. to:

  • help us figure out what our children should be learning in school
  • understand the skills they need to thrive and get a gauge for when the age is appropriate to introduce them or expect them to emerge
  • show examples of how these skills show up in the workplace and in life in general

It’s been eye-opening how some of the daily interactions we have with the kids help build these skills that’ll help them thrive.

Here are some of the skills I’m hoping to pass on

For the longest time, I’ve been interested in using project-based learning to afterschool the kids and reading the chapter on Collaboration gave me some ideas on how to structure that aspect of their learning…here are some of the notes I took:

  • Encourage them to have independent projects, but also joint projects that incorporate what they’re both learning in school.
  • To ensure Riley (my older one) is always challenged, joint projects would need to be coordinated to where there’s an older child as part of the group or one of us adults is working the project with them.
  • The idea behind this is to simulate the real world where you always have a boss (whether it’s a customer or an actual manager).
  • When we collaborate this way, I see them learning valuable skills that’ll challenge to the real world:
    • You’re never too young to lead i.e. Sofia (my younger) will model that for Riley by taking the lead on some aspects of the project and Riley would model that for the older kids that he works with or the adult. It’s amazing how much watching the kids interact helps me be better at work.
    • You’re never too old to learn i.e. Sofia learning from younger kids and Riley learning from Sofia.
    • Your ideas can be made better by working with others.
    • Don’t spend all your time refining your ideas and forget to ship your ideas or at least prepare them for shipment. This is why projects will have deadlines so they don’t fall into perfectionist all-or-nothing thinking.
    • Experiment your way forward to ship, but anticipate what could happen downstream if failures happen so you can fix them.

These are great lessons for us adults to keep learning as well and I’m excited to see what I can learn to help me level up my own skills.

What books are you reading right now?

Making almond milk

Homemade almond milk

Me and hubby have been having green smoothies for our weekday breakfast since January of this year and it’s been going great…but for one thing, packaging. We switched to making our green smoothie with almond milk and we go through a lot of it—it takes 4 cups of milk to make enough smoothie to feed the two of us.

When we shopped at Trader Joe’s, that’s 5 cartons of almond milk…and now that we shop at Walmart, that’s 3 cartons of milk. Considering that our area doesn’t have a recycling program, that’s a lot of cartons to be throwing in landfills every year (152 — 208 cartons to be exact).

Now that I think about it, we were still using a lot of packaging with regular milk, but it became much more obvious when we switched to almond. So this last week, I decided to experiment with making my own almond milk.

It’s not a completely foreign concept for me as my mom made our soy milk back in the day and I didn’t remember it being too complicated. Here’s how my little experiment went.

Step 1: I googled how to make almond milk

I found this helpful article from The Kitchn that made me feel confident that I could make my own milk.

I also found this article that helped me see that I could get more out of each cup of nuts by using 4 cups of water instead of 2. This made the economics (more on that next) make more sense.

Step 2: I crunched some numbers

When I choose to make something I can easily buy at the store, my motivations usually center around keeping the food budget in check, but that’s not the case here.

Depending on where you get your raw almonds from, making your own milk can cost more. Raw almonds from the bulk bins at whole foods cost $6.99 – $11.49 per pound depending on whether it’s organic or not. On Friday, I swung by Trader Joe’s and scored some for $4.99 a pound. This means that the milk costs a little bit more than the cost of buying it at the store if I don’t account for the cost of gear that I bought below.

Quick math shows that the milk is about $1 more expensive per jug assuming I can get 4 cups of almonds out of a 1 lb bag…that’s not always the case. And let’s not forget my time.

Again, knowing that I was throwing one less thing in a landfill was good enough for me but it was good to know the economics of it

Step 3: I bought some gear

I got supplies from Amazon:

Step 4: I bought some almonds and got making

The recipe…here’s what I noticed with the recipes I found:

  1. There was not one consistent soaking time. Some recipes called for up to 48 hours while others said no more than 12 hours or even as low as 6 hours. I went with 12 hours because that’s what the nut milk bag I got recommended for almonds.
  2. The only consistent thing was to rinse thoroughly after soaking.
  3. There were some good recommendations for additives, but I stuck with salt and no sweetener.

Step 4: We enjoyed

The final result was so good that my daughter Sofia actually took a sip. This is remarkable because this child turned her nose up at store bought almond milk and would not drink it for crap even when she woke up hungry. So the fact that she took a sip was a vote of confidence. Hubby said it was aiight 😀.

It didn’t take long at all to get it done, so I’m going to be rolling milk-making to my evening activities…plus I’m planning to make something good with the leftover pulp and can’t wait to share that with you.

xoEJ

How to inspire kids to help around the house

Cleaning kids

Raising two kids has been huge in teaching me who I want to be in the world…as a mom, as a wife, and as a human. And my biggest lesson has been that discipline is teaching. They don’t come out knowing how to behave or how to do what we want them to, we have to teach them.

And this takes patience, a trait that I don’t have a lot of.

One of the things we’ve started doing with our older one, who is 4, is involving him in chores. At this age, he always wants to help and I don’t always let him. But the I read this article on NPR on How to Get Kids to Do Chores (without Resenting it).

According to the author:


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How to Get Kids to Do Chores (without Resenting It)

And the crux of what I got out of the article is that we don’t like to have toddlers help because it takes more time to involve them than if we just did it ourselves. But as one of the moms said, it’s an investment.

I put this into action by reserving one chore for young Riley to do…for example, I cleaned downstairs today and it’s the living room dining room and kitchen. I cleaned everything but the kitchen floors and this evening, Riley and I cleaned the floor together. At some point he’s like “I got this mommy” and he turned it into a game “more steam, more steam” (we were using a steam mop).

It was so stinking cute…and left me with clean floors 😍.

Do you have little ones who help out around the house? How do you inspire action?

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