One of the things I always require my clients to do when we start working together is to define what success will look like for them. I recently found out that it is also called the Painted Picture or the unvarnished truth of who you want to be.
What is the painted picture
The painted picture is essentially your vision of what your body, business, life, or relationship will look like in the next three years. Let’s focus on your body because that is the core reason you are here. Painting a picture of what your body will look like when you get to your goal gives you an idea that you can hold on to when you feel the urge to quit your quest for a healthier lifestyle. The painted picture is essentially the truth of how you want to look and feel in the near future.
Why is it so important to tell the truth and nothing but?
The truth is important because it is the only thing that will keep you from throwing in the towel at the sight of the slightest challenge. If your painted picture is to “lose weight,” it is so vague that you could decide that you are done at the initial sign of success. But if the painted picture of your healthy lifestyle goal results in you looking fabulous in the size eight dress with the suggestively placed cutouts, you are less likely to quit – especially if you’ve already bought that dress. The size eight dress with the cutouts makes your goal so tangible that you can almost taste it.
Before you go on to paint your picture, I want you to take note of one thing that’s captured by the quote below:
In each of us there is another whom we don’t know ~ Carl Jung
We all have the self that we put out into the world and a self that we tend to keep private. Sometimes we keep her so private, that we don’t know everything about her ourselves. Let’s call her your inner self.
When we want to lose weight, we all have the reasons that tell people. But your inner self might want to lose weight for different reasons than what you tell others. Her reasons might not be as noble as the normal “to be healthy” or “to be around for my children” responses that we normally give.
Your inner self’s reasons might sometimes contrary to the social norms i.e. they can be perceived as vain and self-centered. But the key to success lies in actually taking the time to acknowledge what she wants. Your inner-self wants it for you because you want it for yourself, but you aren’t brave enough to acknowledge it to yourself just yet.
You’re talking to yourself here, and no one but you and those you trust will see it except you give them the permission to. So be honest with yourself as you sit down with a pen and paper to paint your picture and get to the root of why you’ll pay a stranger money to help you lose weight, or why you will put yourself through a month of eating nothing but oatmeal or cabbage soup (if that’s your thing).
Being this honest with yourself is important because tapping into the real reason you are doing this will give you the motivation that you need to change your lifestyle habits and finally get the body you have been wanting.
So how do you go about painting your picture?
Throw convention out the window. Yes, it is politically correct to say that you want to change your lifestyle because you want to lose weight or be healthy. But except that is your “bottom of heart” painted picture, it will ring hollow when you say to yourself “I really should work out because I want to lose weight” or “I really should fill my plate with more vegetables and whole grains so that I can be healthy.”
Political correctness and being appropriate do not get you where you want to go, they just hide your truth from yourself and there is nothing worse than lying to yourself. Remember, your painted picture can be between you, yourself, and no other soul on the planet, so be honest with yourself about why you are doing this.
See below for part of my painted picture as an example:
Let me share why my inner-self wanted to lose weight – she (or truly I) wanted to see the lines in my abs, she was tired of hearing random people comment about her weight, and she really wanted to look like the cover of a yoga magazine when she popped into her favorite fancy pose. If you look at each of my reasons, there is a lot of vanity and it says that I care what people say about me BUT it was my truth.
After a mindset shift, my healthy lifestyle became more about exercising and eating healthy because I love to do arm balances and inversions and, based on personal experience, I can’t do that comfortably if I’m heavier than 138 lb [63 kg]. I also do it because I love to dance and I want to look sexy and confident when I do it.
And as I’ve transitioned into life as a wife and a mother, I’ve added the layer of wanting to stay healthy to be around for my family and to be able to keep up with the kiddos.
My reasons above are very personal, and they keep me grounded in healthier habits. Am I healthy? Absolutely, but the traditional benefits of the healthy lifestyle I lead [normal blood pressure, cholesterol levels et al] happen to be icing on the cake.
It’s time to take action
Your assignment for this week is to take some time to yourself and write out your painted picture. I promise that it will be worth the time spent.
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