Life Skills, Questioning the Status Quo and Bacon

I’ve been doing a lot of reading and cooking lately.

The books, articles, and blog posts I’ve been reading have focused on raising independent adults and feeding a healthy family.

Here’s what I’ve been learning…

Apparently, it’s never too early to teach kids life skills

I’m reading How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. by Julie Lythcott-Haims*

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Learn anything on Google

I was sitting in my dorm room in front of my ancient, but reliable, desktop trying to get through a difficult homework assignment due the next day and I was stuck. So I called my person…the guy who had all the answers…my older brother the electrical engineering PhD who always seemed to know what to do.

He broke down the solution for me, but after doing so he invited me to Google it next time. “Jiro babe” he said, “it’s 2004, almost every question you have has been answered by someone on Google. Google is your friend…you can find almost anything using it.”

This was the day I learned that Google was a great path to learn anything

My 18 year-old world changed forever. I still called him when I didn’t know what to Google, but those calls were fewer and further between.

These days I Google everything:

There are some things that Google isn’t great place for…like medical advice (don’t Google your symptoms, you might find you have everything from the sniffles to cancer if you let the results tell it).

But overall, it’s a great start to learn whatever you’re after.


On curating what I learn

Since I’ve become a mother my interests have shifted…not so much what I’m interested in, but why.

Healthy eating is now less about how it’ll help me lose weight

Now it’s more about how it’ll help fuel my crazy days that last from 4:30AM to 10:30PM (sometimes later 🤦🏾‍♀️).

The importance of healthy eating has also taking on new layers.

  1. There’s keeping us all healthy so we can maximize our quality of life to enjoy each other for many years to come.
  1. And there’s supporting my kids to have a healthy relationship with food so they don’t spend too much time in their early twenties unlearning unhealthy attitudes towards food. I don’t want them to see “good foods” and “bad foods”; if rather show them that there’s food and there’s a healthy way to eat it.

Work has taken on new meaning

I have the tendency to be a workaholic. I’m that person who would sleep with her work laptop in her bed with it open to make sure that my analysis ran through the night so I could wake up to comb through the results.

And with my business, I’d be up till 1AM in the morning recording a voice over for a course…only to wake up at 5AM (three hours later) to workout and start the day so I could get my son to preschool on time before heading to work.

No one asked me to work this way…but I thought it was what I needed to do to get where I wanted to go.

Some of it worked for me especially in the early years of my career when hubby and I were still dating and we didn’t have any kids…but I didn’t realize that it was okay to downshift or just change gears.

It wasn’t till I got pregnant with Sofia that I got smacked in the face by reality. My husband was picking up the slack and nurturing an amazing relationship with our son while I was working all the time. Inwas doing what was needed to keep the home running, while spending every spare minute on my business.

This had to change. Thankfully my husband knew just how to help me create a better balance in my life. It’s still not balanced, but it’s prioritized by what’s important to me as a human and what’s important to us as a family.

The irony of it is, since I rebalance my life I am:

  • enjoying the relationships I’m nurturing with my husband and kids.
  • doing great things at my job. Things that I didn’t know were possible when I graduated.
  • thriving in my business more than ever before while supporting my clients to thrive.

All this change is inviting me to learn new things

All this has opened up an interest in a lot of new things…some that I’m absolutely a beginner at. Things like:

  • Education. With two preschool age kids, I’m soaking up everything I can learn about how to educate them to thrive in the world that we’ve brought them into.
  • Money. Money is a tool that gives us options that can result in us living the best lives we can. We’ve been doing a lot of work optimizing our expenses so we can save more to give ourselves and our kids more options.
  • Retirement. At some point in my adult life, I want complete control of what I do with my time. I believe in the dignity of work, but I’m also believe that a working life doesn’t have to be forever. I think that I can work for a certain amount of time and retire early enough to do what I want. So early retirement is something that is of huge interest to me right now.
  • Health. This is something that’ll always be of interest to me. Chasing health was what helped me hop off the weight loss hamster wheel created by short-term diets. Health is also what’s helped me ignore a lot of the things out there that’ll have me spending money on things that aren’t necessary to help me live my best life.
  • Habit optimization. As a mom with a marriage to nurture, a job, and a business, optimizing my habits to live the best life I can matters to me so much right now!

My knowledge in these areas varies. I’m knowledgeable in some and a complete noob in others, so I’m going to be focused on curating what I’m learning moving forward on this blog.

I’ve been doing a lot of this learning in the background, but haven’t shared it here because I haven’t figured out how it fits into the theme of what my site has been about for the last six years…weight loss.

But I’ve come to see that it doesn’t have to fit perfectly. I can learn and share as I go as far as I make sense of what I’m sharing in some way.

So here’s what’s next

Everyday, I’ll share what I learned that day in the areas I’m interested in right now.

And every two weeks, I’ll make sense of the content I’ve shared to that point in a newsletter.

I can’t wait to learn openly and I hope you join me on this journey.


You’re doing great

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing…know that you’re doing great.

Keep showing up, keep doing the work you’ve committed to do and working towards a life that makes your heart sing…and know that you’re doing great.

No matter what you have left to learn or in what direction you need to grow…you’re doing great.

And if you ever forget this…hop back here and let the giant smiles at the top of this post remind you that you’re doing great!

This is a message that I needed to hear today and I thought to share as I’m sure there’s a woman out there who needs to hear it too.


What I’m reading—May 2019

I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately. Some of the books that I’ve read so far this year include:

  • Atomic Habits
  • The Passion Paradox
  • The Simple Path to Wealth
  • When:
  • Show Your Work by Austin Kleon
  • The Alchemist:

And while I typically read multiple books at a time, one book has me sucked in deep.

I got Becoming Brilliant not long after having Riley and I started reading it, but the message of the book didn’t really hit me till I started reading it again.

Why read it now

It’s relevant now that Riley is about to be of school age and we’re trying to figure out the best place for him to go to elementary (or primary) school. You see the schools around where I live aren’t that great. There are only a few good public schools and the norm for upper middle class families is to send their kids to private school.

It’s an option for us, but it’s one we’d rather not have to explore. For one there’s the cost…private school can cost anywhere from $6,000 – $25,000 per year per child depending on the type of school you choose. And you don’t quite know how to vet the quality of the education your child is getting from a private institution because they don’t have the same reporting requirements that public schools are.

The other reason we’d like our children to go to public school is that there is way more diversity in the public school system than you’d encounter at most private schools around here. There are resources available at public schools that may not be available at private schools like social workers on site.

What I’m excited about with this book

There’s a lot we don’t know, so we’ve been turning to books and resources that are available through work benefits to help us navigate the school system around here.

I’m excited about this book because of the expectations they set at the beginning e.g. to:

  • help us figure out what our children should be learning in school
  • understand the skills they need to thrive and get a gauge for when the age is appropriate to introduce them or expect them to emerge
  • show examples of how these skills show up in the workplace and in life in general

It’s been eye-opening how some of the daily interactions we have with the kids help build these skills that’ll help them thrive.

Here are some of the skills I’m hoping to pass on

For the longest time, I’ve been interested in using project-based learning to afterschool the kids and reading the chapter on Collaboration gave me some ideas on how to structure that aspect of their learning…here are some of the notes I took:

  • Encourage them to have independent projects, but also joint projects that incorporate what they’re both learning in school.
  • To ensure Riley (my older one) is always challenged, joint projects would need to be coordinated to where there’s an older child as part of the group or one of us adults is working the project with them.
  • The idea behind this is to simulate the real world where you always have a boss (whether it’s a customer or an actual manager).
  • When we collaborate this way, I see them learning valuable skills that’ll challenge to the real world:
    • You’re never too young to lead i.e. Sofia (my younger) will model that for Riley by taking the lead on some aspects of the project and Riley would model that for the older kids that he works with or the adult. It’s amazing how much watching the kids interact helps me be better at work.
    • You’re never too old to learn i.e. Sofia learning from younger kids and Riley learning from Sofia.
    • Your ideas can be made better by working with others.
    • Don’t spend all your time refining your ideas and forget to ship your ideas or at least prepare them for shipment. This is why projects will have deadlines so they don’t fall into perfectionist all-or-nothing thinking.
    • Experiment your way forward to ship, but anticipate what could happen downstream if failures happen so you can fix them.

These are great lessons for us adults to keep learning as well and I’m excited to see what I can learn to help me level up my own skills.

What books are you reading right now?

Making almond milk

Homemade almond milk

Me and hubby have been having green smoothies for our weekday breakfast since January of this year and it’s been going great…but for one thing, packaging. We switched to making our green smoothie with almond milk and we go through a lot of it—it takes 4 cups of milk to make enough smoothie to feed the two of us.

When we shopped at Trader Joe’s, that’s 5 cartons of almond milk…and now that we shop at Walmart, that’s 3 cartons of milk. Considering that our area doesn’t have a recycling program, that’s a lot of cartons to be throwing in landfills every year (152 — 208 cartons to be exact).

Now that I think about it, we were still using a lot of packaging with regular milk, but it became much more obvious when we switched to almond. So this last week, I decided to experiment with making my own almond milk.

It’s not a completely foreign concept for me as my mom made our soy milk back in the day and I didn’t remember it being too complicated. Here’s how my little experiment went.

Step 1: I googled how to make almond milk

I found this helpful article from The Kitchn that made me feel confident that I could make my own milk.

I also found this article that helped me see that I could get more out of each cup of nuts by using 4 cups of water instead of 2. This made the economics (more on that next) make more sense.

Step 2: I crunched some numbers

When I choose to make something I can easily buy at the store, my motivations usually center around keeping the food budget in check, but that’s not the case here.

Depending on where you get your raw almonds from, making your own milk can cost more. Raw almonds from the bulk bins at whole foods cost $6.99 – $11.49 per pound depending on whether it’s organic or not. On Friday, I swung by Trader Joe’s and scored some for $4.99 a pound. This means that the milk costs a little bit more than the cost of buying it at the store if I don’t account for the cost of gear that I bought below.

Quick math shows that the milk is about $1 more expensive per jug assuming I can get 4 cups of almonds out of a 1 lb bag…that’s not always the case. And let’s not forget my time.

Again, knowing that I was throwing one less thing in a landfill was good enough for me but it was good to know the economics of it

Step 3: I bought some gear

I got supplies from Amazon:

Step 4: I bought some almonds and got making

The recipe…here’s what I noticed with the recipes I found:

  1. There was not one consistent soaking time. Some recipes called for up to 48 hours while others said no more than 12 hours or even as low as 6 hours. I went with 12 hours because that’s what the nut milk bag I got recommended for almonds.
  2. The only consistent thing was to rinse thoroughly after soaking.
  3. There were some good recommendations for additives, but I stuck with salt and no sweetener.

Step 4: We enjoyed

The final result was so good that my daughter Sofia actually took a sip. This is remarkable because this child turned her nose up at store bought almond milk and would not drink it for crap even when she woke up hungry. So the fact that she took a sip was a vote of confidence. Hubby said it was aiight 😀.

It didn’t take long at all to get it done, so I’m going to be rolling milk-making to my evening activities…plus I’m planning to make something good with the leftover pulp and can’t wait to share that with you.


How to inspire kids to help around the house

Cleaning kids

Raising two kids has been huge in teaching me who I want to be in the world…as a mom, as a wife, and as a human. And my biggest lesson has been that discipline is teaching. They don’t come out knowing how to behave or how to do what we want them to, we have to teach them.

And this takes patience, a trait that I don’t have a lot of.

One of the things we’ve started doing with our older one, who is 4, is involving him in chores. At this age, he always wants to help and I don’t always let him. But the I read this article on NPR on How to Get Kids to Do Chores (without Resenting it).

According to the author:

Toddlers are born assistants. Need help sweeping up the kitchen? Rinsing a dish? Or cracking an egg? No worries. Toddlers Inc. will be there on the double.

How to Get Kids to Do Chores (without Resenting It)

And the crux of what I got out of the article is that we don’t like to have toddlers help because it takes more time to involve them than if we just did it ourselves. But as one of the moms said, it’s an investment.

I put this into action by reserving one chore for young Riley to do…for example, I cleaned downstairs today and it’s the living room dining room and kitchen. I cleaned everything but the kitchen floors and this evening, Riley and I cleaned the floor together. At some point he’s like “I got this mommy” and he turned it into a game “more steam, more steam” (we were using a steam mop).

It was so stinking cute…and left me with clean floors 😍.

Do you have little ones who help out around the house? How do you inspire action?

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On daily exercise

Is daily exercise possible?

Daily exercise is something I’ve always wanted to do. In my mind it’s what fit people do. The reality of the benefits of exercise is you don’t have to do it daily to get what you need out of it. But I want to exercise daily.

I was able to workout daily for all 31 days in January and most of April. But for the most part, I’ve been working out 3 days a week for years. This has worked for me to get lean, get pregnant twice, have two babies, and recover twice.

But what I want is to have a sustainable daily workout habit. I attempted it in the month of April…but it was so hard. First, I came down with bronchitis and each time I would try to workout, I would cough so hard that it’ll feel like my lungs were about to exit my body. I took a few days off and broke my streak.

But I’m still trying at it.

Here’s the strategy that I’m going to try for the month of May…it’s one that I heard author Greg McKeown talk about on Matt D’Avella’s podcast The Ground Up Show.

I paraphrase but here’s what he said:

When building a habit, set limits. For example, if you want to write in your journal every day you can set limits of no less than 1 sentence and no more than 5 sentences.

Greg McKeown via The Ground Up Show

What this does is it makes it easier for you to win. Sticking with the journaling example, on days that you are tired, you can remind yourself that all you need to write is one sentence and head to bed. And on days that you’re revving to go, you write your five sentence and know that you’re done.

I’m going to try that strategy in the month of May to see how it works for me. Here are my limits and why:

  • No less than 15 minutes: It’s a great amount of time, and it’s the least amount of exercise that I need to do for my Apple watch to register it as a workout.
  • No more than 60 minutes: Honestly, I’d rather select 30 minutes for my upper limit. But, with the nice warm weather is back and we take a walk as a family on weekends that lasts about an hour.

So far, I’m 3 for 3 on this and we’ll see how far this goes.

Do you exercise daily? If so, how do you keep the motivation to keep showing up and how do you stay healthy.