On curating what I learn

Since I’ve become a mother my interests have shifted…not so much what I’m interested in, but why.

Healthy eating is now less about how it’ll help me lose weight

Now it’s more about how it’ll help fuel my crazy days that last from 4:30AM to 10:30PM (sometimes later 🤦🏾‍♀️).

The importance of healthy eating has also taking on new layers.

  1. There’s keeping us all healthy so we can maximize our quality of life to enjoy each other for many years to come.
  1. And there’s supporting my kids to have a healthy relationship with food so they don’t spend too much time in their early twenties unlearning unhealthy attitudes towards food. I don’t want them to see “good foods” and “bad foods”; if rather show them that there’s food and there’s a healthy way to eat it.

Work has taken on new meaning

I have the tendency to be a workaholic. I’m that person who would sleep with her work laptop in her bed with it open to make sure that my analysis ran through the night so I could wake up to comb through the results.

And with my business, I’d be up till 1AM in the morning recording a voice over for a course…only to wake up at 5AM (three hours later) to workout and start the day so I could get my son to preschool on time before heading to work.

No one asked me to work this way…but I thought it was what I needed to do to get where I wanted to go.

Some of it worked for me especially in the early years of my career when hubby and I were still dating and we didn’t have any kids…but I didn’t realize that it was okay to downshift or just change gears.

It wasn’t till I got pregnant with Sofia that I got smacked in the face by reality. My husband was picking up the slack and nurturing an amazing relationship with our son while I was working all the time. Inwas doing what was needed to keep the home running, while spending every spare minute on my business.

This had to change. Thankfully my husband knew just how to help me create a better balance in my life. It’s still not balanced, but it’s prioritized by what’s important to me as a human and what’s important to us as a family.

The irony of it is, since I rebalance my life I am:

  • enjoying the relationships I’m nurturing with my husband and kids.
  • doing great things at my job. Things that I didn’t know were possible when I graduated.
  • thriving in my business more than ever before while supporting my clients to thrive.

All this change is inviting me to learn new things

All this has opened up an interest in a lot of new things…some that I’m absolutely a beginner at. Things like:

  • Education. With two preschool age kids, I’m soaking up everything I can learn about how to educate them to thrive in the world that we’ve brought them into.
  • Money. Money is a tool that gives us options that can result in us living the best lives we can. We’ve been doing a lot of work optimizing our expenses so we can save more to give ourselves and our kids more options.
  • Retirement. At some point in my adult life, I want complete control of what I do with my time. I believe in the dignity of work, but I’m also believe that a working life doesn’t have to be forever. I think that I can work for a certain amount of time and retire early enough to do what I want. So early retirement is something that is of huge interest to me right now.
  • Health. This is something that’ll always be of interest to me. Chasing health was what helped me hop off the weight loss hamster wheel created by short-term diets. Health is also what’s helped me ignore a lot of the things out there that’ll have me spending money on things that aren’t necessary to help me live my best life.
  • Habit optimization. As a mom with a marriage to nurture, a job, and a business, optimizing my habits to live the best life I can matters to me so much right now!

My knowledge in these areas varies. I’m knowledgeable in some and a complete noob in others, so I’m going to be focused on curating what I’m learning moving forward on this blog.

I’ve been doing a lot of this learning in the background, but haven’t shared it here because I haven’t figured out how it fits into the theme of what my site has been about for the last six years…weight loss.

But I’ve come to see that it doesn’t have to fit perfectly. I can learn and share as I go as far as I make sense of what I’m sharing in some way.

So here’s what’s next

Everyday, I’ll share what I learned that day in the areas I’m interested in right now.

And every two weeks, I’ll make sense of the content I’ve shared to that point in a newsletter.

I can’t wait to learn openly and I hope you join me on this journey.

xoEJ